You’re Not Broken—You’re Running a Script
Different person. Same red flag – “I keep attracting toxic partners.”
You swore this time would be different. You went slow. You watched for warning signs. You even did therapy. But somehow, three months in, you’re right back in the same dynamic: emotionally unavailable, controlling, or draining.
You’ve tried dating apps with better filters. Read Attached. Set boundaries. Worked on yourself. But you keep attracting toxic partners who feel familiar in ways you can’t explain.
Your friends ask, “Why do you keep choosing these people?” But here’s what they don’t understand: You’re not consciously choosing them. Your subconscious is.
You’re running a Love Script—invisible programming that creates vibrational matches with dysfunction. Not because you’re broken. Because you’re coded.
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Why I Keep Attracting Toxic Partners: This Isn’t About Bad Luck—It’s About Vibrational Match
Therapists will tell you to set better boundaries, heal your attachment wounds, raise your standards. All important work—for people whose Love Scripts allow healthy relationships.
But if your subconscious is hunting for someone to fix an old wound with, you’ll bypass every green flag and zero in on the red ones. It’s not conscious. It’s electromagnetic.
Love Scripts are patterns written into your “inner software”. They run below awareness, creating attraction to people who recreate your original wound. Your system genuinely believes: “If I can heal this unavailable person, I’ll finally heal that unavailable parent.”
You’re not attracting toxic partners by accident. You’re vibrationally matched to them. The script whispers: “This one feels like home.” And “home” means familiar pain.
You can’t boundary-set your way out of electromagnetic attraction. You need to change the signal you’re broadcasting. That’s where Life Script Hacking comes in.
The 4 Love Scripts That Keep You Stuck
Most people running Love Scripts don’t realize they’re repeating a pattern. They just know love feels hard, draining, or always just out of reach. Here are the four most common relationship scripts I’ve tracked:
The Abandonment Script
Origin: Father left. First love ghosted. Parent was physically present but emotionally absent. Learned early: love = disappearing act.
How it shows up: You’re drawn to emotionally unavailable people. Partners who are “busy,” distant, hot-and-cold. You chase. They pull away. You feel alive in the uncertainty.
Why subconscious protects it: Your nervous system believes: “If I can make this person stay, I’ll prove I was worthy of that person staying.” You keep attracting partners who abandon you because your system is trying to heal the original wound by recreating it.
The Fixer/Savior Script
Origin: Had to parent your parent. Mother was depressed, father was an addict, or you were the “responsible one” in a chaotic home. Learned: your value = fixing broken things.
How it shows up: You’re attracted to “potential.” Partners with addiction, anger issues, or trauma they won’t address. You believe your love can heal them. Spoiler: it can’t.
Why subconscious protects it: If you’re not needed, you fear you’re not wanted. The script keeps you attracting toxic partners who need “saving” so you can maintain your identity as the rescuer. Being with a healthy person feels… boring. Unfamiliar. Wrong.
The Narcissist Magnet Script
Origin: Grew up with narcissistic parent—everything revolved around their needs. You learned to read moods, anticipate needs, make yourself small to keep peace.
How it shows up: You attract partners who dominate conversations, rarely ask about you, expect you to manage their emotions. You feel exhausted but can’t explain why. When you try to leave, they lovebomb you back.
Why subconscious protects it: Conditional love feels like “real” love to your nervous system. Unconditional love feels suspicious—”What’s the catch?” The script keeps you attracting narcissists because chaos and ego management feel like home.
(Research on narcissistic abuse patterns: Psychology Today – Narcissism)
The Self-Worth Wound Script
Origin: Childhood message (spoken or unspoken): “You’re too much” or “You’re not enough.” Maybe you were criticized constantly, compared to siblings, or your needs were seen as burdensome.
How it shows up: You tolerate disrespect because part of you agrees with it. You stay with partners who criticize you, cheat, or treat you as an option—because it confirms what you already believe about yourself.
Why subconscious protects it: Your system thinks: “If I accept healthy love, I’ll be exposed as unworthy of it.” Staying with toxic partners keeps you safe from the risk of being “found out.” The script matches you to people who reflect your own self-judgment.
Why Therapy and Boundaries Can’t Break the Loop
You’ve done the work. Read the books. Set boundaries. Went to therapy. Healed your attachment wounds—cognitively.
Love Scripts live in the subconscious. But their roots – in your electromagnetic field.
Think of it this way: Your conscious brain creates a dating checklist (healthy, kind, available). Your subconscious broadcasts a signal: “SEEKING: Emotionally unavailable person to recreate childhood wound with.” The signal always wins.
Traditional therapy helps you understand why you attract toxic partners. It doesn’t change the vibrational frequency you are broadcasting. It’s like understanding how a radio works but not changing the station.
Cognitive awareness ≠ energetic reprogramming. You can know your pattern intellectually and still feel magnetically pulled toward the wrong people.
(Understanding attachment and energy dynamics: Greater Good Science Center – Relationships)
How to Delete Toxic Attraction Scripts (Permanently)
Breaking a Love Script requires three things conventional therapy misses:
1. Precision Origin Tracking: I use extrasensory abilities to locate the exact moment your Love Script installed—not guess through talk only. Could be age 3 when dad left. Could be past life betrayal. Could be absorbed from mother’s heartbreak in utero. I find the source.
2. Energetic Field Recalibration: You can’t “boundary” your way out of electromagnetic attraction. Energy work rewires the signal you’re broadcasting. Like changing your radio frequency from “Drama FM” to “Healthy Love AM.”
3. Healthy Love Integration: Removing a toxic attraction script leaves a gap. Your system needs new programming or it defaults to old patterns. I help you integrate “safe love is real love” so healthy partners start feeling right instead of boring.
This is Life Script Hacking for relationships. Not traditional couples counseling. Not purely spiritual woo. Precision assessment that change who you’re magnetically drawn to—so you stop attracting toxic partners without force or willpower.
Real Results: Jessica Stopped the Narcissist Loop in 6 Weeks
Jessica R., 29, Austin
The Script: Narcissist Magnet + Fixer/Savior combo
The Block: Four consecutive relationships with emotionally abusive partners. Always thought she could “love them better.”
The Result: Deleted inherited script from narcissistic grandfather. Within 6 weeks, matched with emotionally available partner on dating app—something that had never happened before. No longer attracted to “potential” or red flags.
Investment: 3 sessions, $141 total
“I finally understood why healthy guys felt ‘boring’ to me—my nervous system was addicted to chaos. Once we cleared the script, I actually felt attraction to someone kind. That had never happened. Now I’m with someone who doesn’t need fixing, and it feels… right. Wild.”—Jessica R.
Is This You? Take the 30-Second Love Script Test
See all that apply:
- Healthy, stable people feel “boring” or “too nice”
- You feel more attracted when someone is pulling away
- One or both parents were emotionally unavailable or narcissistic
- You’ve tried therapy/boundaries but keep ending up with same type of partner
- You stay too long in relationships that clearly aren’t working
- Friends say “you deserve better” but you can’t seem to leave
- You’ve dated 3+ people with similar toxic traits (unavailable, controlling, narcissistic)
If you checked 3+, you’re running a Love Script.
The pattern won’t stop by trying harder or dating different “types.” Your system is seeking a specific electromagnetic signature. Until you change the frequency you’re broadcasting, you’ll keep attracting toxic partners who match it.
Ready to stop the toxic attraction loop?
In 1 hour, we’ll identify your exact Love Script, and make a plan how to change it, so you start magnetically attracting the right people. No guessing. No years of dating practice. Precision reprogramming.
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