Why Do I Keep Making Same Mistakes? The Script Behind YOUR Life Loops

You’re Not Unlucky—You’re Running a Script

Different job. Same burnout. You switched companies. Negotiated better hours. Even took that long vacation everyone said you needed. Three months later, you’re back to Sunday anxiety and Monday dread.

New relationship. Same fights. This partner seemed different—stable, emotionally available, everything you said you wanted. Six months in, you’re having the exact same arguments about emotional closeness that ended your last three relationships.

More money. Same stress. You got the promotion. The raise. Built up savings for the first time in years. Then the “emergency” hits—car breakdown, medical bill, unexpected expense. Savings gone. Right back to living paycheck to paycheck.

I know this feeling. I lived it for years. You may have tried fixing this. Read the books. Joined yoga classes. Went on retreats. Been in Therapy. Some of it helped temporarily. But the pattern always comes back. Different circumstances. Different people. Same patterns.

Here’s what took me years to understand: You’re not cursed. You’re not attracting bad luck. You’re not broken.

You’re following a Life Script you never wrote.

And until you learn to see the code, you’ll keep executing it on repeat.

This Isn’t About Willpower—It’s About Code Running in the Background.

Remember myself sitting on YouTube for the hundredth time, searching “why do I keep making same mistakes.” I’d get all kinds of advice: try harder, be more mindful, heal your inner child, set better boundaries.

I tried all of it. Some things helped temporarily. But the pattern always came back.

What I finally understood changed everything: The problem isn’t happening at the level of conscious thought. It’s happening in your subconscious programming.

Life scripts are invisible code installed in your subconscious. They were written in childhood by trauma, family patterns, or survival needs. Sometimes they’re even carried over from past incarnations. These scripts control your decisions, reactions, and outcomes without you ever seeing them run.

Think of your mind like a computer operating system. On the surface (conscious mind), you’re running applications—making decisions, setting goals, choosing behaviors. But underneath, in the background, scripts are running automatically. They determine:

– What feels “safe” vs. “dangerous” – Who you’re attracted to (and who repels you) – How much success you allow yourself – What level of chaos feels “normal” – Where your financial thermostat is set – Which emotions you’re permitted to feel

This is why logic doesn’t work. You can’t think your way out of programming that lives below conscious awareness. It’s not a mindset problem. It’s not about motivation or discipline.

It’s about code you can’t see controlling outcomes you don’t want.

Here’s the thing: Your subconscious isn’t trying to sabotage you. It’s trying to keep you safe. But its definition of “safe” was written when you were 5 years old, or in a moment of trauma, or inherited from family lineage, or sometimes even carried from a previous lifetime.

That outdated code is still running. And it’s running your life.

7 Most Common Life Scripts

Every person is running multiple scripts at once. But most fall into seven core categories. Read through these carefully—you’ll recognize yourself.

1. Money Scripts: The Financial Thermostat

The Scarcity Loop

Origin: Grew up watching parents stress about bills, or inherited “money is scarce” belief from family lineage. You learned at a deep level: money = anxiety. Safety = just enough to survive. How it runs: No matter how much you earn, you end up right back at “barely getting by.” Raise comes in, expenses mysteriously rise to match. Build savings, “emergency” drains it. Hit $50k, can’t break $51k. Hit $100k, lifestyle inflates to consume it all. Why brain keeps it: Abundance feels dangerous. Your subconscious believes if you have too much, you’ll be targeted, judged, or abandoned. Scarcity feels safe because it’s familiar.

The Upper Limit Script 

Origin: Childhood message that you don’t deserve more than parents had, or you’ll be punished for “getting too big,” or success means betraying your roots. How it runs: You hit a financial milestone, then immediately self-sabotage. Make $100k, then quit. Build business to $10k/month, then stop marketing. Get inheritance, then make terrible investment. The script says: “You’re not allowed past this point.” Why brain keeps it: Success triggers guilt (survivor’s guilt, imposter syndrome, fear of outshining family). Your subconscious creates “acceptable” ceiling to avoid those feelings.

The Financial Sabotage Script

Origin: Learned early that money = stress/pain/fighting (parents fought about money, or money meant dad was absent working). Or: deep belief “I’m not worthy of wealth.” How it runs: Impulse spending. Forgetting to pay bills. Investing in obvious scams. Enabling financially irresponsible people. Quitting stable jobs for “risky” ventures that fail. Always “almost” successful but never quite there. Why brain keeps it: If money = pain, brain protects you by making sure you don’t accumulate it. Or: unworthiness script means you unconsciously reject what you don’t believe you deserve.

2. Love Scripts: The Relationship Loop 

The Toxic Attraction Script 

Origin: First template for “love” was pain (absent parent, volatile relationship, abandonment). You learned at a deep level: love = suffering. Healthy = boring. How it runs: Attracted to emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, or chaotic partners. Red flags feel like green lights. When someone healthy shows interest, you feel nothing—no chemistry, no spark. You date your trauma on repeat, trying to heal the original wound. Why brain keeps it: Subconscious is trying to “win” the love you didn’t get as a child. It believes: “If I can make THIS unavailable person choose me, I’ll finally be worthy.” Healthy love doesn’t trigger that mission, so it feels “wrong.”

The Abandonment Replay Script

Origin: Parent left (death, divorce, emotional absence), first love ghosted, or serial betrayals. System coded: people leave. How it runs: Either you leave first (self-sabotage relationships before you can be abandoned), or you cling desperately and push people away with neediness. You test partners constantly: “Will you leave like everyone else?” Testing becomes self-fulfilling prophecy. Why brain keeps it: Familiar pain (abandonment) feels safer than unfamiliar safety (secure attachment). Brain would rather confirm what it knows than risk hoping for something different.

The Emotional Unavailability Script

Origin: Showing emotion as child was punished, ignored, or used against you. Learned: vulnerability = danger. How it runs: You want connection but can’t open up. Partners say you’re “walled off,” “cold,” “distant.” You intellectualize feelings. Shut down during conflict. Leave when things get too intimate. Why brain keeps it: Vulnerability once meant survival threat (rejection, punishment, manipulation). Script keeps emotional walls up to protect you—but also keeps love out.

3. Career Scripts: The Work Trap

The Golden Handcuffs Script 

Origin: Learned worth = productivity, or “security” means staying even when miserable, or fear of financial instability outweighs everything. How it runs: You hate your job. It drains you. You’ve been saying “I’ll leave soon” for 2+ years. But golden handcuffs (salary, benefits, prestige) keep you locked in. You panic at thought of pay cut. Brain rationalizes: “At least it’s stable.” Why brain keeps it: Financial fear script + identity tied to title/status. Change feels like death. Misery feels safer than uncertainty.

The Perfectionism Trap Script

Origin: Childhood where mistakes = punishment, love was conditional on achievement, or volatile/critical parent made errors feel life-threatening. How it runs: Everything is all-or-nothing. Can’t delegate. Work 70-hour weeks. Burnout cyclical. Promoted, but can’t enjoy it because you’re already focused on next impossible standard. Why brain keeps it: Perfectionism isn’t about excellence—it’s about control and safety. If you’re perfect, you can’t be criticized, rejected, or punished. The script says: “Good enough = dangerous.”

The Imposter Syndrome Script 

Origin: Told you weren’t smart/talented enough, watched others get credit for your work, or have genuine talent but deep belief you’re “faking it.” How it runs: Hide accomplishments. Downplay achievements. Afraid to speak up in meetings. Wait to be “exposed” as fraud. Self-sabotage opportunities because “I don’t actually deserve this.” Why brain keeps it: If you were told (or shown) you weren’t good enough, brain internalized it as fact. Now success creates cognitive dissonance—so brain sabotages to align reality with belief.

4. Health Scripts: The Body Battleground

The Stress-Eating Loop

Origin: Food was comfort during childhood stress, or only “safe” way to feel soothed, or inherited family pattern (everyone stress-eats). How it runs: Feel stressed → eat. Feel sad → eat. Feel anxious → eat. Diet works temporarily, then trigger event → back to old pattern. Weight yo-yos. You know what to do, but can’t stop doing opposite. Why brain keeps it: Food became your emotional regulator. If you never learned to self-soothe in other ways, eating becomes only tool. Removing food = removing safety mechanism = panic.

The Burnout Cycle Script 

Origin: Rest was punished/shamed, or learned “productivity = worth,” or parent was workaholic and modeled “push until you break.” How it runs: Ignore body signals. Push through exhaustion. “Rest is for the weak.” Crash hard (illness, injury, breakdown). Recover slightly. Immediately push hard again. Repeat. Why brain keeps it: Worth tied to output. Rest feels like laziness/failure. Pushing feels like virtue. Script says: “If I stop, I’m worthless.”

The Body as Enemy Script 

Origin: Chronic illness, trauma stored in body, or childhood where body was criticized/shamed/violated. How it runs: Disconnected from body. Ignore pain signals. Engage in punishing exercise or restrictive eating. Body dysmorphia. Feel at war with your own flesh. Why brain keeps it: If body was site of pain/trauma, dissociation is survival mechanism. “Hating” body feels like control. Script says: “My body betrayed me, so I can’t trust it.”

5. Productivity Scripts: The Freeze Response

The Procrastination Freeze Script

Origin: Inner child terrified of what happens AFTER completion. Criticism, rejection, raised expectations, or fear of success = all dangerous. How it runs: Know what to do. Set deadlines. Try productivity hacks. Sit down to start—brain shuts off. Scroll, distract, do anything BUT the thing. Wait until panic of last-minute overrides fear. Why brain keeps it: Procrastination keeps you in “safe zone” where you never have to face judgment. If you don’t finish, you can’t fail. Script says: “Not doing it is safer than doing it badly.”

The Deadline Addiction Script

Origin: Only got attention/results under pressure, or learned “crisis = motivation,” or adrenaline became only way to feel alive.

How it runs: Can’t function unless it’s last minute. Need panic to start. Create crises to force action. Calm, steady work feels impossible—no urgency, no activation. Why brain keeps it: Your system became dependent on adrenaline. Pressure became your “on” switch. Without deadline panic, brain can’t engage. Script says: “I need crisis to function.”
Why brain keeps it: Visibility once meant nothing (or worse, got you in trouble for “demanding attention”). Invisibility = safety. Script says: “I don’t deserve to be seen.”

The All-or-Nothing Script

Origin: Taught “if you can’t do it perfectly, don’t do it,” or harsh inner critic, or volatile parent where “good enough” was never good enough. How it runs: Start project with massive vision. Get overwhelmed. Quit entirely. Or: Go all-in, burn out, abandon. No middle ground. It’s either 100% or 0%. Why brain keeps it: Middle ground feels like failure. Perfectionism or nothing. Script says: “Mediocre is shameful—so I won’t try unless I can guarantee excellence.”

6. Social Scripts: The Isolation Loop

The Rejection Magnet Script

Origin: Early rejection (bullying, exclusion, family scapegoat role) taught: people hurt you. How it runs: Expect rejection, so you either isolate preemptively or unconsciously push people away with tests, defensiveness, or sabotage. Friendships don’t last. You end up alone, which confirms belief. Why brain keeps it: If rejection is inevitable, brain “chooses” it first to maintain control. Loneliness is painful but familiar. Connection is risky. Script says: “Better to be alone than abandoned.”

The People-Pleasing Script

Origin: Love/safety was conditional on being “good,” or saw boundary-setting punished, or caretaker role forced on you young. How it runs: Can’t say no. Overextend constantly. Drained by friendships but can’t set limits. Resentment builds. People use you. You burn out on relationships but keep saying yes. Why brain keeps it: Saying no once meant danger (losing love, triggering anger). Script says: “My needs don’t matter—keeping others happy keeps me safe.”

The Lonely-in-Crowds Script

Origin: Learned “real you” isn’t acceptable, so you perform a role. Or: deep fear of being truly seen/known. How it runs: Surrounded by people but feel utterly alone. No one “really knows you.” Fake it in social settings. Friendships stay surface-level. Crave depth but can’t risk vulnerability. Why brain keeps it: If real self was rejected/shamed, hiding feels like survival. Mask protects you but also prevents real connection. Script says: “If they knew the real me, they’d leave.”

7. Family Scripts: The Inherited Loops The Caretaker Script

Origin: Parentified as child (took care of siblings, emotionally supported parent), or family role was “the responsible one.” How it runs: Responsible for everyone. Fix other people’s problems. Burn out on helping. Feel guilty if you focus on yourself. Family drains you but you can’t stop rescuing. Why brain keeps it: Identity built on being needed. If you’re not caretaker, who are you? Saying no triggers guilt that feels unbearable. Script says: “Their needs > mine.”

The Scapegoat Script 

Origin: Family needed someone to blame. You were “the problem child,” “the difficult one,” “the black sheep.” How it runs: Always blamed for things. Defensive constantly. Either rebel harder (confirm the label) or try desperately to prove you’re good (never works). Feel like you don’t belong anywhere. Why brain keeps it: Identity formed around “bad” label. Familiar role. Trying to earn approval becomes life mission—but script ensures you never will. Brain believes: “I’m the problem.”

The Invisible Child Script

Origin: Overlooked growing up (middle child, parent distracted by sibling’s issues, your needs ignored). How it runs: Struggle to advocate for yourself. Uncomfortable being seen. Hide achievements. Feel like you don’t matter. Attracted to people/jobs where you’re undervalued—feels like home.

Why Logic Doesn’t Work

You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Subconscious Code.

You’ve tried logic. You’ve tried willpower. You know what you “should” do. You’ve read the self-help books, listened to the podcasts, maybe even worked with a coach or therapist.

Some of it helped. You had breakthroughs. Moments of clarity. A few weeks or months of different behavior.

Then the pattern comes back.

Here’s why traditional methods often hit a wall:

1. Talk-Based Approaches Address Conscious Mind, Not Subconscious Patterns 

Understanding your patterns is valuable. Processing emotions is important. Gaining insight matters. But insight alone doesn’t update programming. You can understand WHY you attract unavailable partners and still… attract unavailable partners. Because the script isn’t running in your thinking mind—it’s deeper. This research shows that subconscious processes control much of our decision-making” or “unconscious thought affects behavior

2. Books Give You New Information, Not New Operating System

Knowledge is valuable. But reading about how to change doesn’t rewire patterns shaped by years of conditioning. You can learn boundary-setting techniques and still feel uncomfortable saying “no” because the script says: “Saying no = danger.”

3. Willpower Fights the Subconscious—And Loses 

Your conscious mind has discipline for maybe 2-3 hours a day. Your subconscious runs 24/7 and controls most of your automatic reactions. Trying to willpower through a script is like trying to manually override autopilot while the computer fights you. Eventually, autopilot wins.

4. Surface Solutions Rarely Reach The Root Cause

If you’re stress-eating, a meal plan is possibly only treating the symptom (behavior). It doesn’t touch WHY you’re using food to regulate your emotional state. Until you address the root, the behavior will keep resurfacing—different form, same function.

The Missing Link: Scripts Live in the Energetic Body

What many Western approaches miss is that patterns and beliefs aren’t just thoughts you can change through positive affirmations. They’re stored energetically in your body, in family lineage, often carried from past incarnations.

You can’t logic your way out of deep-rooted patterns. You can’t think your way out of ancestral imprints. You can’t willpower your way out of past-life karma.

You need to work at the level where the pattern was installed.

That’s where Energy Karmic Healing comes in.

The Solution

How to Change Life Scripts (Permanently)

Changing a script isn’t about “managing” it for the rest of your life. It’s about updating the code so it stops running the old pattern.

Here’s how it works:

Step 1: Identify the Script

You can’t change what you can’t see. First step is bringing the invisible pattern into conscious awareness.

This means: – Tracking the pattern across different contexts (relationships, jobs, money) – Naming it specifically (“I attract partners who need fixing”) – Seeing the repetition (same outcome, different circumstances)

Most people never get past this step. They blame circumstances (“bad luck”) rather than seeing the script underneath.

Good news: If you’ve read this far, you’ve already started identifying your scripts.

Recognition is Step 1.

Step 2: Find the Root

Every script has an origin point. Could be:

– Childhood event: Parent’s divorce, traumatic incident, repeated rejection – Family pattern: Inherited belief system (money is scarce, success is dangerous) – Survival adaptation: What you had to do to stay safe in a difficult environment – Past-life imprint: Karmic pattern carried across lifetimes

Traditional approaches try to find this through talk and memory. That works if the root is in this lifetime and accessible through conscious recall.

But what if the root is: – Pre-verbal (before age 3, stored in body not memory, or surpressed) – Ancestral (inherited from grandparents you never met) – Past-life (from a previous incarnation you don’t consciously remember)

That’s where extrasensory tracking comes in. I can locate the exact origin point—not through guessing, but through direct energetic perception. Whether it’s from early childhood, from your great-grandmother’s survival trauma, or from a past incarnation, the work is to find it.

Step 3: Update the Code

This is where many approaches stop. They help you understand (Step 1) and maybe trace origins (Step 2). But they don’t have tools to update the deep-rooted programming.

Working with deep roots requires energy work.

Here’s what that looks like in practice:

– Track the energetic signature of the script (every pattern has a frequency I read) – Identify how it impacts your life situations and what it’s trying to teach you—why it’s there. We also carefully note what needs to be changed in your actions, reactions, or choices for this program to release and not rebuild itself in the future – Clear the energetic block using targeted energy practices – Integrate new patterns using those notes about what needs to change in real life from the session

This isn’t “positive thinking” or visualization. This is precision energetic and extrasensory work. I’m working at the level where the script was installed—not the level of conscious thought, but the level of subconscious programming and energetic imprint.

Think of it like this:

– Talk-based approaches: Understanding the pattern (what it does, how it formed) – Self-help: Learning to manage symptoms (reducing impact) – Life Script Hacking: Changing the script at source code level (updating the program)

Some scripts are simple—one session, clear the block, pattern shifts.

Others run deeper. Generational patterns. Past-life karma. Trauma that’s been stored in the body for decades. These usually need more time (2-3 extra sessions) and careful integration work to ensure the new pattern actually takes root.

This is personal work. No two people are the same. Some shifts happen immediately. Others unfold over weeks as you practice new ways of being in the world.

Who’s Doing This

My name is My name is Alexander Brainhart. I’m a Life Script Hacker at Brain Heart Way.

But that’s not where I started.

Chocolate business in LA. Construction company in Kyiv. Corporate executive in Moscow, Russia. In Accra, Ghana. On paper, I was successful. In reality, stuck in a pattern I couldn’t see—jumping between ventures all-in, burning out, then starting over hoping the next thing would last.

For 20+ years alongside building career and businesses, I’d been exploring spiritual practices. Curious, searching, but keeping it 95% theoretical. Then in 2020, something shifted. Life situations forced me to stop exploring and start actually practicing energy work. That’s when I finally saw what logic never could—the invisible scripts running my life.

When I started rewriting them at the energetic level—in their roots—where they actually lived, everything changed.

Friends noticed. Asked for help. Then came their friends.

That’s how Brain Heart Way was born.

What I Do Now

I help people find the specific pattern that’s stuck on repeat—whether it started in childhood, came from family lineage, or carried over from past lives. Then we rewrite the script. And guess what happens next – both inner and outer obstacles start dissolving.

Why this works where other things didn’t:

Coaching and therapy are valuable for insight and strategy. But if the ROOT of your pattern lives beyond this lifetime (past-life karma), or below conscious memory (pre-verbal patterns), or in your lineage (ancestral imprints)—those approaches can’t reach it.

My Life Script Hacking Method can. And does.

Client Cases

These Are People Who Had Their Script Changed

Note: Names and identifying details edited for privacy.

Sarah M., 34, Toronto 

Script: Ancestral Scarcity + “Unworthy of Wealth” Pattern: Made $85k but always broke. Every time income increased, mysterious “emergencies” drained savings. Block: Grandmother survived Soviet famine. Scarcity code transmitted three generations. Sarah’s subconscious believed: having more than survival-level = dangerous/guilty. Correction: 4 sessions tracking ancestral line, clearing scarcity imprint, resetting financial thermostat. Result: Broke through $100k ceiling within 4 months. Built emergency fund (first time in life). “Emergencies” stopped. Investment: 4 sessions, $238

Sophie L., 29, Berlin 

Script: Toxic Attraction Loop + Abandonment Replay Pattern: Dated emotionally unavailable men exclusively for 8 years. Red flags felt like green lights. When stable guy showed interest, felt “no chemistry.” Repeated: chase, get close, get ghosted. Block: Father left at age 6. First love ghosted at 17. Nervous system coded: love = abandonment. Trying to “win” unavailable men to heal original wound. Correction: 3 sessions clearing abandonment imprint, rewriting “love = pain” code, installing secure attachment template. Result: Met current partner (stable, emotionally available) a few months after final session. “For first time, healthy feels exciting, not boring.” Investment: 3 sessions + 10-Day Healing Cycle, $504

David R., 41, Chicago 

Script: Perfectionism Trap + “Worth = Suffering” Pattern: Executive, 70-hour weeks, constant burnout. Promoted to VP but couldn’t enjoy it—immediately focused on next goal. Tried boundaries, meditation, therapy. Nothing stuck. Sunday dread unbearable. Block: Father was workaholic who died of heart attack young. David internalized: rest = weakness, pushing = virtue. Worth tied to suffering. Correction: 3 sessions removing “productivity = worth” belief, clearing inherited workaholic pattern, recalibrating nervous system. Result: Reduced to 45-hour weeks without productivity loss. Launched side consulting practice doing what he loves. “I didn’t know work could feel good.” Investment: 3 sessions + 10-Day Healing Cycle, $511

Rebecca K., 37, Manchester 

Script: Stress-Eating Loop + Body as Enemy Pattern: Knew what to eat, how to exercise. Would lose weight, then life stress hit → back to emotional eating. Hated body. Felt at war with own flesh. Diet worked until it didn’t. Block: Childhood abuse—body became site of trauma. Eating was only self-soothing tool allowed. Unconsciously kept weight on as protection. Correction: took us 5 sessions to be able to re-write all layers of interconnected harmful programming and inner blockage. Result: Lost 28 pounds over 6 months (and kept it off). “First time I’m losing weight without hating myself. My body isn’t my enemy anymore.” Investment: 5 sessions + 10-Day Integration, $632

Thomas P., 33, Prague 

Script: Social Isolation Loop + Rejection Magnet Pattern: No social life for 2+ years. Too anxious to reach out. When people invited him, made excuses. Lonely but “couldn’t risk” connecting with people. Block: Severe bullying ages 12-15. Learned at a deep level: people = danger. Isolation = safety. Correction: cleared strong rejection trauma. Result: Joined local running club. Made 3 close friends. Dating for first time in 4 years. “I forgot what it feels like to not be alone.” Investment: 4 sessions, $238

These aren’t miracles. They’re what happens when you change the code keeping the pattern running.

Is This You? Take this short Script Recognition Test

If you answer YES to 3 or more, you’re likely running a life script:

– Same pattern, different circumstances: New job = same stress. New partner = same fights. More money = same anxiety. 

– 2+ years stuck: You’ve been trying to change this for years. Some progress, but pattern keeps coming back. 

– Logic doesn’t work: You KNOW what you should do. You understand the problem. But behavior doesn’t shift. 

– Family pattern recognition: Parent(s) had similar struggle. Or: you swore you’d never be like them—but you are. 

– Disproportionate reactions: Certain situations trigger intense emotional responses that feel bigger than the situation warrants. 

– Self-sabotage moments: Right when things are going well, you unconsciously do something to mess it up. 

– Previous help didn’t complete the shift: Gained insight, processed emotions, tried strategies—but core pattern unchanged.

If 2+ = YES → You’re running a script that logic can’t touch.

Ready to Change the Code?

Book a Diagnostic Session ($47) with me; 60-minute session where (based on your request) I track your specific life scripts, and patterns, and tell you exactly what and how needs to be addressed to fix this. 

You’ll walk away knowing: 

1. The exact script running (not generic—YOUR specific pattern) 

2. Recommendations on how to rewrite it with me or without

You’re Not Broken

If you’ve tried everything and nothing’s worked long-term, it’s not because you’re unfixable.

It’s because you’ve been trying to fix at the wrong level.

The problem isn’t your mindset. It’s the code running on the background. The solution isn’t more willpower. It’s updating the script that’s overriding your willpower.

Access my FREE Life Script Audit – a deep and powerful tool that helps identify which of the 7 core scripts you’re running 👇